See Introductory Post where I discuss what prompted me to study a list of 31 female names alleged to be currently in use as part of a rotating schedule of New Names used in the temples of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
MSoM: Mocked Sacred or Mock-Sacred? 


Noted LDS Rubys
Haight, Ruby M. (Olson) wife of LDS apostle, David B Haight


LDS Significance


The word is included in the Topical Guide under the following 6 headings: Better; Price; Precious; Ruby; Virtue,Virtuous; Wisdom.

The word is included in the online Guide to the Scriptures under the following 2 headings: Virtue; Woman, Women.

6 scriptures cited are:
Job 28:8 (the price of wisdom is above rubies),
Proverbs 3:13-20 (In counsel given to a male, wisdom and understanding – personified as female through the use of feminine pronouns – is more precious than rubies),
Proverbs 8:11 (wisdom is better than rubies)
Proverbs 20:15 (knowledge is a more precious jewel than rubies or gold)
Proverbs 31:10 (price of a virtuous woman is above rubies)
Lamentations 4:7 (in describing the virtues of those set apart as Nazarites, their bodies were more ruddy than rubies.)

Comment: Oh, my sexist alarm is SO going off with the Guide to the Scriptures headings. Hey boys, did you know that rubies are mentioned FOUR times in association with wisdom, knowledge and understanding, ONE time in association with Nazarites and only ONCE in association with women of virtue? (Do you even know what the difference between a Nazarite and a Nazarene is? And which illustrious characters from scriptural history were Nazarites?!)



But is SHE pure for our stud?

So here the hand-wringing of the Mormon patriarchs is apparent again: they are more worried about losing their exclusive flock of babymakers, aka lineage extenders, than they are worried about not gaining enough wisdom, knowledge and understanding for themselves. Yes, wisdom, knowledge and understanding so that maybe they  might be better, more attractive, more happifying men for the womenfolk? “We men desperately want our womenfolk to stay clean and pure for the approved breeding!”  So tell me, then, why isn’t there a heading under virtue for MEN? For virtue loveth virtue (D&C 88:40). (Since the Guide to the Scriptures only connect women with virtue, surely that can’t be a quiet nod to lesbianism, can it? But I digress.) There are PLENTY of unisex scriptures which mention virtue, especially in connection to holding the Priesthood. Wow. You know, Boys, you’re doing this to yourselves. In mistakes like these your misogyny is constantly showing and I am really starting to HATE it.


(Video: Kenny Rogers karaoke of “Ruby, Don’t Take Your Love To Town”.)


mormonad-virtue-1118425-galleryAnd I gag a little bit on the well-meaning but unconsciously misogyny-supporting statements made by those of my own gender. All on their own, in the statements and speeches they make, these women perpetuate the precious-priceless-pure-virtuous-FEMALE Ruby paradigm they’ve incorporated into their belief systems. (See Mary N Cook’s 2010 General Conference address). I don’t mind female virtue. What I mind is that male virtue is not equally stressed.

What’s REALLY ridiculous is that the definition of VIRTUE is GREATER THAN and NOT interchangable with the definition of CHASTITY! Even though it’s essentially taught as chastity in the Young Women’s values, my hero, Daniel Webster is here to correct y’all:

VIRTUE, noun vur’tu. [Latin virtus, from vireo, or its root. See Worth.] The radical sense is strength, from straining, stretching, extending. This is the primary sense of Latin vir, a man.]

1. Strength; that substance or quality of physical bodies, by which they act and produce effects on other bodies. In this literal and proper sense, we speak of the virtue or virtues of plants in medicine, and the virtues of drugs. In decoctions, the virtues of plants are extracted. By long standing in the open air, the virtues are lost.

2. Bravery, valor. This was the predominant signification of virtus among the Romans. [You mean BEING VALIANT in the testimony of JESUS CHRIST, as in the huge determiner between an individual inheriting the terrestrial and celestial kingdoms?! (D&C 76:79)]

3. Moral goodness; the practice of moral duties and the abstaining from vice, or a conformity of life and conversation to the moral law. In this sense, virtue may be, and in many instances must be, distinguished from religion. The practice of moral duties merely from motives of convenience, or from compulsion, or from regard to reputation, is virtue as distinct from religion. The practice of moral duties from sincere love to God and his laws, is virtue and religion.

VIRTUE is nothing but voluntary obedience to truth.

4. A particular moral excellence; as the virtue of temperance, of chastity, of charity.
5. Acting power; something efficacious. (see Mark 3:1)
6. Secret agency; efficacy without visible or material action.
7. Excellence; or that which constitutes value and merit.
8. One of the orders of the celestial hierarchy [in Christian angelology]. “Thrones, dominations, princedoms, virtues, powers.”
9. Efficacy; power.
10. Legal efficacy or power; authority.



Illustration from Patricia Polacco’s book, “The Bee Tree”

To illustrate my point, and further demonstrate my discovery that within the Church, the meaning of rubies has morphed from meaning wisdom, intelligence and knowledge to meaning FEMALE virtue and chastity, go and search for yourself at As of this date, there are 15 references which appear under the search term “rubies”. The three earliest references are from Brigham Young, John Taylor and Charles W Penrose, and are true to the most-used scriptural meaning of the symbolism of the ruby (wisdom, intelligence, knowledge).

But beginning in 1950 with the 12 remaining later references, and increasing in frequency and usage, female chastity is jammed down the throats of mainly female audiences with all the gusto of a muzzleloader’s ramrod. Where are these same sermons ramroddelivered to men? Yes, men: the fuel that fires the industry, even men, the past-present-and-future masturbators, voyeurs, fornicators, whoremongers, adulterers, rapists and sodomites. Why does the Church always preach down at the female valleys when they should be up there, screaming at the male fences (which barely exist)? Ridiculous. Just ridiculous.

Speaking of cognitive dissonance, here’s an entirely female-faulting portion of lyrics from the song, “How Can I Know” which is sung by the protagonist in the musical, Debbie, Diary of a Mormon Girl, written by Heather Young and Lex de Azevedo. It’s the presumably LDS MALE pushing her toward sex, giving her the message that she’s of no use or interest without that appeal to him and the MALE Holy Ghost sounding the warning alarm and laying the guilt, blame and shame. What the hell! You can’t win for losing! I mean, READ THIS!!

How can I know how far I can go before my first date? I think I should know. How can I know how far I can go? When he says, ‘Come on, Babe’, do I have to say no? Can’t I go along once for a dangerous ride? Must I always contend with this funny little feeling inside? Oh spare me the lectures on virtue and vice! The chowder is nothing without all the spices!  Now just remember, your virtue is more precious than rubies and pearls!  Yeah, but Ruby and Pearl have a lot more fun, you know what I mean? Why do I hear this little Voice inside me? If I took His advice there’s no question that I’d be an absolute wallflower! What is that crazy voice anyway? Did I ask for Someone to tell me I’m not going to like myself? Just because I do one little thing wrong?


Where’s the measure for Mormon men?



One last thing:
Have the misogynists even noticed that Wisdom and Understanding are personified
as a woman (Eve, maybe) in the Proverbs 3 verses?


The Lord by Wisdom hath founded the earth; by Understanding hath he established the heavens.” Do you mean the Woman’s Wisdom of learning that the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil was actually desirable, even delicious? Do mean the Woman’s Understanding that she could be enabled to really become Chava or, Eve, a name meaning, the breath of life  through obeying, together with Adam (JST 1 Tim 2:15), the very first commandment given to mankind (Gen 1:28) and the other two Great Commandments in the Law?

(Video: “It’s a Man’s, Man’s, Man’s World” James Brown cover by Morgan James)





1979, David B Haight
My wife, Ruby, after a fifty-year lapse, is back at the university taking Spanish 101. Hard work? Of course! Long hours of study to keep up? Many! Who does the cooking? Sometimes I do. Rewarding? I’m so proud of her when she bears a humble testimony that our members in Argentina or Mexico can understand.


1989, David B Haight
My life has been spared, and I now have the pleasant opportunity of acknowledging the blessings, comfort, and ready aid of my Brethren in the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve, and other wonderful associates and friends to whom I owe so much and who
surrounded my dear wife, Ruby, and my family with their time, attention, and prayers…

The evening of my health crisis, I knew something very serious had happened to me. Events happened so swiftly—the pain striking with such intensity, my dear Ruby phoning the doctor and our family, and I on my knees leaning over the bathtub for support and some comfort and hoped relief from the pain.


1995, David B Haight
My wife, Ruby, and I recently celebrated our sixty-fifth wedding anniversary. We were married in the Salt Lake Temple on September 4, 1930. The next morning we went up to see her mother on M Street in Salt Lake City to bid her good-bye. And as part of those tender moments, she fixed a little basket for us to put in the car. She said to me, “David, promise me that you’ll take good care of Ruby.” And I said, “I promise.” I remind Ruby periodically that someday I’m going to meet her mother, and I hope I will be able to look her straight in the eye and say, “I think maybe I’ve done it.”

haights01Ruby and I were married the right way, sealed in the temple with its divine covenants and commitments that promote trustworthiness, faithfulness, devotion, and dedication. Now, after sixty-five wonderful years, we look back on our time together and realize that it gets better as time goes on.

When Ruby and I left for California in 1930 in our little Model T Ford, we crossed Nevada going a hundred miles an hour on those gravel, washboardy roads—thirty miles straight ahead and seventy miles up and down. We’d never been to California before, so when we finally made it to Lake Tahoe, that large lake looked warm and beautiful. I didn’t know that it was icy cold under the first inch of water. We found a little motel and went in and put on our swimsuits. I wanted to demonstrate to her that she had married a real “he-man.” We went on the pier out in the lake, and I thought it looked so wonderful. The sun was just going down. I dove straight down, to demonstrate to Ruby what a “find” she had made. As I dove through the icy water farther down, I thought I was a goner. I clamored to get out.

We had a wonderful time together as we drove on to Berkeley, California. We found a furnished apartment for forty-five dollars a month. But our second day, when I came home that evening, I discovered that my key wouldn’t work in the door. I finally went to the manager and said, “I’m sorry, my key doesn’t work.” She said, “Oh, that’s all right. Your wife has moved you.” I said, “Moved us?” “Yes,” she said, “we had another apartment that was five dollars less.

Well, Ruby and I figured out one day that we have moved around the United States twenty-seven times. We moved to California on three different occasions. We moved to Illinois twice. We’ve moved back and forth and around. But out of that, we look back upon it all with joy. Now, with our three children and our fifty-plus grand- and great-grandchildren, we say, “What a wonderful life has been ours.” . . .

A few weeks ago, Ruby and I were up in Oakley, Idaho, for a couple of days, restoring our old family home…”

996, David B Haight

“When I was called to be an Assistant to the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles… I remember the details well. I was called to the First Presidency’s office to meet with President Joseph Fielding Smith… They spent a few moments with me, extending the call, and then reminded me that the next morning my name would be read in the conference…

I was so overcome with my feelings as I walked around the block that I didn’t want to meet anyone I knew. I just wanted to find my wife, Ruby, and tell her what had happened. I went up to the ninth floor of the Hotel Utah, where Ruby was visiting with some family. I remember knocking on the door and opening it just a couple of inches so I could motion for her to come out. Of course, she wondered what was happening and came out into the hall…

I took her by the hand, and as we walked along the hallway, all I could do was squeeze her hand. I was so overcome with what had happened that I had trouble even getting the words out to tell her about it. Finally she stopped me and said, “Well, say something.” Then I looked at her, put my hands on her shoulders, and told her what had happened. She started to cry. The two of us stood there with our arms around one another and people walking by wondering who those silly boobs were crying in the hallway. But we didn’t pay any attention to the traffic because something momentous was happening to us. Our lives had been changed.”

Comment: Here it is again, the same old story of not including the wife when callings of major importance are extended to the husband. (But I’ve never been extended a major calling without my husband present, to give his permission and promise support. Now, isn’t that just an interesting double standard?)

The other thing that has been on my mind, but which I have not felt comfortable mentioning so far, in these posts, is a video I saw of Sister Susan Bednar, the wife of Elder David A Bednar. I just can’t get over the sound of her voice, or the look on her face. I found it almost unbearable. It made me want to tremble and weep… and then it made me want to rant and scream. Why? Because there is only one other place where I have seen and heard the same thing to the degree that I see it manifested in Sister Bednar. Unfortunately it was among the women with whom I lived and counseled for nearly two years on the grounds of a domestic abuse shelter. What that apostle is so confidently calling humility is absolutely not the quality that I’m seeing on her face and hearing in her voice.

(Video: Sister Bednar on Staying Humble. )


1996, David B Haight
I was called to be a stake president in California just before President McKay was sustained in a solemn assembly as the President of the Church and as our prophet.
My wife, Ruby, and I drove to Salt Lake to be in attendance at that conference.


1997, David B Haight
haights02A few years ago I sat in the Los Angeles Temple in a little sealing room with my wife, Ruby. We had our sons there with their wives—they’d been married just for a short time—and our sweet daughter was kneeling at the altar, holding the hand of the young man she was to be sealed to. And as I looked around the room I then realized that this was the great moment of my life because I had in that room everything that was precious to me—everything. My wife was there, my eternal sweetheart and companion. Our three children were there with their eternal companions. And I thought, David, in your youth you had things all wrong. You thought some worldly event of some kind might be the great event of your life. But now, I was witnessing that great event. I was there, I was feeling it, I felt a part of it, and I knew in that little white sealing room—clean, sweet, pure in that room—with all of my family there that this was the great moment of my life.

Comment: As an idealist, I really like this quote, but at the same time my heart breaks for those who have not “met the mark”, measured up; those who, despite all, have not lived to see this great Mormon ideal realized in their own families, and among their own posterity. All of whom have free moral agency. Even despite HIS best efforts, and even the gift of his Son’s life, our perfect Heavenly Father and Heavenly Mother will not get a moment like this with ALL of their children gathered in the Celestial Kingdom. So, despite David’s seeming success (and his constant habit of public display, rubbing it in, openly luxuriating and wantonly wallowing in it), I guess knowing that my Heavenly Parents understand the Broken-and-Not-Kintsugi-Families is a small comfort, of sorts. A comfort, that is, until I look at the title of this address: “Hymn of the Obedient: ‘All Is Well’ ”. Can I just throw back my head and howl now?! Well, thanks, David, for the implication that those whose children have exercised their moral agency and strayed from the Church are somehow NOT obedient.



1998, David B Haight
As we left our meeting that evening and left that little farmhouse, there was a full moon shining down through the trees. I said to Ruby, “
I can imagine the night of April 6, 1830, after that small group had assembled, the Church had been organized, and six men agreeable to its organization were present to be in harmony with the laws of the state of New York; I can imagine what was said, what was prophesied about the future of the Church, and the testimonies that would have been borne.” Then I said, “I would imagine that on the night of April the 6th, 1830, there was a full moon shining, showing that our Savior was smiling upon that occasion and upon that setting.

Later I expressed that idea to a group where Brother Chamberlain, who then was the director of the Hansen Planetarium in Salt Lake, heard me say it. He was thoughtful enough to get in touch with the naval observatory to find out what might have happened on April the 6th, 1830. They didn’t have records back that far, so he was thoughtful enough to contact the Royal Observatory at Greenwich in England for records that might have been available over there. He later sent me some documents indicating what was happening in the horizon that week of April the 6th, 1830, indicating that there was a full or beautifully beaming moon those days before and after April the 6th. The glories of the Lord had been poured out upon the occasion.”

waterComment: You almost had it, David. The moon was getting there on April 6, 1830. Two days later was the full moon. I don’t know if any journals, almanacs or meteorological records recorded what mitigating effects, if any, that the weather might have had that night. Stuff like cloudy weather or rainstorms might have obscured the shine of the moon. Yet, apparently, not knowing or caring or fact-checking to see if it was really true or not, you still went on to spread this canned presentation of your imaginings far and wide as you went about preaching in your position as an apostle, didn’t you? Personally, when it comes to what is said over the pulpit, I don’t care for this kind of irresponsiblity. What would have happened to Brother Chamberlain if you had been wrong? Did you tell this story to tout your imaginings as having been confirmed; as being some kind of gut level gift of seership?


1998, David B Haight
With the blessings of heaven and with
a special, built-in nurse that I have, Ruby, to take care of me and a loving family, I’m doing quite well.


1999, David B Haight
haights4Even though my eyesight isn’t as good as it used to be, as I get older I find that my vision improves, that I see the larger picture more clearly as time goes on.
I look at Ruby sitting over here, bless her heart; this year we will celebrate our 69th wedding anniversary. And so on this day, my heart is filled with gratitude for the blessings that I have received and for the influence that the Church has had upon me and my life, with Ruby by my side, and for the sons that we have raised, Bruce and Robert, and our daughter, Karen, and their families.


2000, David B Haight
I’m so grateful for my being able to be here, for my ancestry, for my wife, Ruby, for our children and all of our grandchildren. Our family has started a tradition that on this day, wherever we might be living, we stand in front of the television set if we are at home or attend in our meetinghouse or Conference Center and we raise our right hand to sustain the officers of the Church, especially our living prophet.


2000, David B Haight
Ruby and I knelt at the Salt Lake Temple at the altar on September the fourth, 1930, holding hands and looking at one another, little did we ever realize what would lie ahead for us. We were two young people. I had come out of the country in southern Idaho, and Ruby had haights03come out of Sanpete County, Utah. Our fathers were dead, but we had two wonderful widowed mothers, and they were with us in the temple. As we knelt and made covenants and promises, I knew that that was for real.

Now, after we have been married 70 years, I can say to all of you that it gets better, that it gets better year after year, with the preciousness and the tenderness and the realization of some of the eternal blessings that lie ahead for us. And so to all of you I would say, and Ruby would join with me if she could be standing here, that life can be wonderful and so meaningful, but we have to live it in a simple way. We must live the principles of the gospel. For it is the gospel in our lives that makes the difference as we wend our way through life…

Last Sunday, Ruby and I attended a sacrament meeting of a ward here in central Salt Lake…

I thought of last summer. Ruby and I were up in Idaho for a short visit…”


2001, David B Haight
I am grateful for my wife, Ruby, coming into my life, for our children, and then their children, and then their children, and the people that are part of my life today that influence my life. And I hope that I have some influence for good in their lives.


2002, David B Haight
I would remind you of the 100th anniversary of the Church. At that time, Ruby and I were married. It was 1930. This is the 172nd anniversary of the Church, and we have been married 72 years. I’m only mentioning that to you so you mathematicians can remember 172; it comes pretty easily.

Comment: No, you’re only mentioning it to BRAG ABOUT IT for the UMPTEENTH TIME.


2003, David B Haight
CanIGetAnAmenMaintaining your standards qualifies you for marriage in the temple. Incidentally, this is the 173rd Annual General Conference of the Church, and for just a bit of trivia, my wife and I have been married 73 years. So the year we were married, the Church would have been holding the 100th annual conference. I can remember that as I was holding Ruby’s hand across the altar of the temple—listening to the words of the sealing ceremony—I had a special feeling in my heart, not only of the sacredness of it but of the responsibility I had to live as I should live, to take care of her and our children, and then our grandchildren, and then the other generations that would come along. I was determined to set an example of living the way a person can live in honoring the priesthood and our marriage covenant.

david-b-haight-a2c2a871-c01f-45c4-a246-5740c6177ac-resize-750Comment: Okay… I admit it. I must confess that I never enjoyed the General Conference addresses of this apostle. They read like the self-centered travelogues and inappropriate public expressions of love to spouse and family that we’ve been warned so much against committing during Fast and Testimony meeting. I do not ever recall learning anything of benefit to my own life from what he said. Nor did I feel inspired or uplifted; just bored, waiting for him to quit blathering on with the same worn-out sayings, like a salesman who doesn’t realize he’s already given you this stale pitch 4 times already. I felt like I was sitting across a kitchen table from a man who’d forgotten his job was to be a prophet, seer and revelator and instead just liked to forget all that in favor of acting like an old farmer who just liked to hear himself talk.


2004, Jeffrey R Holland
In the spirit of President Hinckley’s tender remarks, may I also express that same “affection … stronger than death” and the deep personal loss felt by all of us in the passing of our beloved David B. Haight and Neal A. Maxwell. To those two brethren and their sweet Ruby and Colleen, respectively, we say that we love you,
we reverence your service, and we honor the exemplary lives you have lived. Each of us considers it the greatest of privileges to know you and to have served at your side. You are precious to us forever.

Comment: Ditto the feeling expressed below, after the 2014 citation.


2008, Cheryl C Lant
“For as long as I can remember, my father wore a
beautiful red ruby ring on his left hand. It was passed on to my only brother. I suppose it will become a tradition in our family—a legacy passed from generation to generation. It will be a good tradition, with sweet memories associated with it…

At the end of my father’s life, he passed much more on to us, his children, than a red ruby ring. His body was spent, but in reality he stood as a pillar of strength, an example of righteousness and truth. His very life held the traditions that strengthen us today, even though he is no longer with us. He was “steadfast, and immovable, willing with all diligence to keep the commandments of the Lord.”


2014, Henry B Eyring
You all have felt the blessing of being in the company tonight of
daughters of God who are also under covenant to help and direct you as they promised to do. I have seen what you have seen as covenant sisters keep that commitment to comfort and help—and do it with a smile.

I remember the smile of Sister Ruby Haight. She was the wife of Elder David B. Haight, who was a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. As a young man he served as the president of the Palo Alto stake in California. He prayed over, and worried about, the girls in the Mia Maid class in his own ward.

So President Haight was inspired to ask the bishop to call Ruby Haight to teach those young girls. He knew she would be a witness of God who would lift, comfort, and love the girls in that class.

rubyrubySister Haight was at least 30 years older than the girls she taught. Yet 40 years after she taught them, each time she would meet my wife, who had been one of the girls in her class, she would put out her hand, smile, and say to Kathy, “Oh! My Mia Maid.” I saw more than her smile. I felt her deep love for a sister she still cared for as if she were her own daughter. Her smile and warm greeting came from seeing that a sister and daughter of God was still on the covenant path home.

Heavenly Father smiles on you as well whenever He sees you help a daughter of His move along the covenant path toward eternal life. And He is pleased every time you try to choose the right. He sees not only what you are but also what you may become.”


Comment: Let’s begin with a sidenote. Was it within the stewardship of stake president Haight to tell his bishop to extend a call in the ward YW to his wife? Just wondering. I thought this was more the prime stewardship of the bishop.

Anyway, this whole story of his wife (an apostle’s woman)  and his wife’s teacher (an apostle’s woman) brings up all sorts of baffling emotions in me: the “In Crowd” praising and extolling the “In Crowd.” Remember, this narrative is coming from the nephew of Spencer W. Kimball! It must be SO nice to be a member of the Born With A Silver Spoon In My the_sneetches_2Mouth Club. They don’t even realize how much they take it for granted, or how those of us born without “Stars upon Thars” can’t even comprehend such intimacy, let alone fathom the sheer audacity of extolling each other in front of their flock of groupies who’ve never experienced it, and never will. We didn’t attend this meeting to hear you praise each other, nor to hold each other up for lights unto the rest of us. We came for the word of God. We came for the hope of believing we are more than just utilitarian millstones who will live out our little existence until we are worn out and replaced by other useful TBM servants to the Church just like us. (Hopefully those from our own offspring that we’ve trained specially for the task, right?!) Instead we got a parade of statues. Again. (Whoops, here I go talking like an abuse survivor again. ‘Scusi. I will shut up, since nobody wants to hear it, anyway.)

(Video: “I Feel Nothing” from The Garden by Michael McLean and Bryce Neubert)



Etymology according to

RubygemRUBY: Simply from the name of the precious stone (which ultimately derives from Latin ruber “red”), which is the birthstone of July. It came into use as a given name in the 19th century.

Comment: Some sources say that because the tribe’s color is represented as red, the ruby is the stone of the tribe of Reuben. Other sources say Reuben’s stone is the sardius.



Ruby Symbolism according to

“KINGS: Many cultures have long considered ruby a stone of kings. Not surprisingly, ruby symbolism and lore have many associations with power, wealth, and their protection. Possessing a ruby purportedly benefited and protected the owner’s estates and assisted in the accumulation of wealth. Notably, this gem would help its owner acquire more gems… Hindus regard the ruby, known as “the king of precious stones,” as more valuable than any other gem…

PROTECTION: When worn as a talisman, ruby’s mystical properties extended to personal protection. People believed wearing the stone on the left, the heart side, would allow the bearers to live peacefully. None could take their land or rank. The blood-colored stone would preserve them from all perils, even their homes from storms… The ancient Burmese prized the ruby as the stone of soldiers. They believed it bestowed invulnerability. However, wearing it on the left was not sufficient. Only those who had rubies physically inserted into their flesh would gain this benefit. They believed they were safe from wounds from spears, swords, or guns. Other sources claim rubies and other red stones can remedy bleeding and inflammation as well as increase the body’s warmth.

SELF-ORIGINATING LIGHT: Ruby’s inner glow seems to hint that perhaps it contains an inner fire. This visual effect may have inspired some curious bits of lore. A ruby placed in water could bring it to a boil. If hidden in a wrapping, the gem could shine through and reveal its presence. Stories are told of rubies that emit their own light. One was even described as “shining like a torch.” …

[This belief goes even to the point of believing that rubies are living gems] In the past, some believed spirits inhabited rare and beautiful gems. [Some in the present still believe this about rubies.]

SUMMARY: So, if you want a gem to increase your wealth, impress your rivals, and protect yourself from harm, the legends point to ruby… the stone for success.

coincidenceComment: Do you see what I see? The Ruby is the perfect symbol of the male perception of the perfect Mormon woman. She’s beautiful and quiet. Her value is found in how she helps him amass and protect his wealth, both temporally (cash, goods, chattels) and eternally (children, extending lineage). A good Ruby brings attention to her man, impressing some and bring envy to the hearts of others. And as a bonus, if she happens to still be alive in there (but not too very flashy or gaudy), you’ve got quite the pleasant piece; yes the pleasant peace of a docile companion; master of reflective listening. What a gem!




Ruby Olson Haight, loving, gracious and devoted wife to the late Elder David B. Haight of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, passed away Sunday, December 5, 2004, of causes incident to age. Born in Fairview, Utah, on April 28, 1910, Sister Haight was 94 years of age. Sister Haight was the youngest of 11 children born to Peter and Christena Maria Larsen Olson. All have preceded her in death. Her graciousness to everyone, combined with a sweet spirit of kindness and love, left a lasting impression on all who knew her. Elder and Sister Haight provided an exemplary marriage during their almost 74 years together. It could be characterized as one of those old-fashioned romances where there was a twinkle in each other’s eyes and a holding of hands on every occasion where they were together. Their lengthy marriage represented a historical record for any apostle during this dispensation. One could not be around Sister Haight without being uplifted and feeling a spirit of the Savior in her presence. Sister Haight and her dear husband, David, lived a rather remarkable and exciting life. Her father died when she was one, and at age eight the family moved from Fairview, Utah to Salt Lake City. She was a classmate at LDS High School with Gordon B. Hinckley, who later became President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Elder Haight met his future wife at a school dance while she was attending the University of Utah. The courtship proved to be a bit of a challenge for Elder Haight, since other young men were also seeking her hand. But David persevered, and their life together became legendary. They were married in the Salt Lake Temple on September 4, 1930, and honeymooned at Lake Tahoe shortly thereafter. It was during this trip in their new 1929 Model A Ford where Elder Haight often commented on speeding across the desert at 100 miles an hour — 30 miles straight ahead and 70 miles an hour up and down. The Haights lived in Utah and Illinois before settling in Palo Alto, California, where Sister Haight assisted her husband in the hardware business. He served concurrently as Mayor of the City, as well as Palo Alto Stake President. Later they moved to Utah when Elder Haight was called to be an Assistant to the Quorum of the Twelve in 1970 and as an Apostle in 1976. Sister Haight was always at her husband’s side but nevertheless was a powerful influence for good to not only her three children, but her 18 grandchildren and 78 great-grandchildren. They all adored her. She served in many ward and stake callings, including membership on the Primary General Board. Sister Haight is survived by her two sons: David Bruce, Jr. (Angela) and Robert Peter (Dorothy), one daughter, Karen Christena Huntsman (Jon). Funeral services will be held Thursday, Dec. 9, at 1:00 p.m. at the Salt Lake Monument Park Stake Center, 1320 Wasatch Dr, Salt Lake City, Utah. There will be no viewing before the services. Interment will take place immediately thereafter at Wasatch Lawn Memorial Park, beside her beloved David. Arrangements are under the direction of Larkin Mortuary, 260 E. South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah. The family wishes to express their love and gratitude to Carmela Ghersi for her tender love in caring for mother and father during these last two years. Published in Deseret News from Dec. 7 to Dec. 9, 2004

malefComment: It reads like the other obituaries I have read or posted in this blog series. Flora… Irene… May… Norma… Such perfect, perfect  Mormon fairytale lives.

There’s never a ravenous, big, bad, thirsting-for-your-blood wolf in the woods; never a scarlet shattering of all your dreams.

Never a jealous Maleficent in the shadows. Never leagues of pompous judges, one after the other, who don’t know jack.



My Jaundiced Commentary

When you’re Mormon royalty, the answer is definitely yes. Yes, Ruby and Pearl DO have a lot more fun. They must have done something really awesome in the Premortal World to have been so carefully placed by God himself into such safe golden prongs, from cradle to grave.



A woman’s reach is bounded only by what her mind accepts and her heart allows.

– Belle S. Spafford, 9th General Relief Society President.



👍  MSoM: IDA

👎  MSoM: MAY


👎   MSoM: RUBY
👍   MSoM: RUTH
👎   MSoM: ZINA


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